My parents constantly take stuff off of me using the excuse that it’s “theirs because they bought it”. I just bought a new phone because I broke my old one and I’m scared they’ll try to take it off of me again except I bought the phone with my own money and this time I’m scared of getting kicked out.

I am so sorry, anon. I hope that you can keep your phone safe for now. While you can, I want you to google local shelters in your area. There may be shelters specifically for victims of abuse and abandonment. If you are kicked out and have nowhere to go, you can also always go to the police station, especially if you are underage. Yes, in this situation it is likely that the police will…

Update: My parents are mocking me, comparing me to other kids, and slapping me. I don’t trust any other adults. What should I do?

I wish there was more help that I could provide. Please remember that you don’t deserve to be abused, and you WILL escape this abuse. The best resource I can provide you right now is this: https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/ The best thing about this website is they have a child abuse hotline. When calling 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453), a qualified crisis counselor will answer and assist you, if you: Need help and want to talk to a counselor. Are…

when i was little, my mom would punish me for misbehaving in public by putting me in a corner and leaving me there. a regular instance of this would be me sitting in the shopping cart, and her leaving the cart in one spot, typically a corner, and walking away. never more than like 5 to 10 feet, but it was a regular form of punishment for “misbehaving” in public. she’d love to use “stores have corners too” as a threat to behave. im hesitant to consider this neglect/withholding affection w/o (1/2)

(2/2) a second opinion, but my mom is highly emotionally abusive in other ways, and tbh i need all the proof i can get from what memories i have that what she did was wrong. thank you so much for reading this and giving me your opinion if you do <3 Anon, punishing you in public like that was a form of humiliation tactic, and definitely emotionally abusive of her. I am so sorry that…

I lost so much of my life to abuse and I don’t know who I am without it. I’m trying to unlearn it all and my friends are trying to help me but I don’t know and I’m scared and I’ve been abused by so many people because I thought it was all normal I even got r*ped because I thought it was normal I need help and I can’t get it

I am so sorry, anon. You didn’t deserve that abuse, and I’ms sorry that it affects you so strongly to this day. Many of us who were abused definitely struggle with the same difficulties. We become so used to abuse that it becomes background noise, and we expose ourselves to it again and again. Recognizing what’s happening is the first step to saying no to it, anon. And you’re very strong for doing that. I…

hi my mom hits me often and yells at me and lies to me and says im worthless and bad and she’s tried to kill me before and im worried she’ll do it again. i want to get out of my house, but without my parents help idk how i can pay for the college i go to. do you have any ideas?

I am so sorry that this is something you have to go through, anon, that’s terrible. Luckily there are definitely ways for you to pay for college without your parents help. You’ll need to talk to your school counselor for help getting more resources, but here’s what I can tell you. 1. You can get student loans if you can get a co-signer. Anyone who will cosign with you will do. A grandparent, an aunt,…

My parents only got physical when I was younger and it wasn’t that bad but I feel like they still are emotionally abusing me. But I feel so invalid because other people had it so much worse and I was hit a few times and need years of therapy for it.

Please, anon, and anyone else reading this, never feel bad or invalid because you weren’t abused ‘enough’. Someone somewhere always has it ‘worse’ than someone else. Does that mean only the suffering of one single person on earth who has it the ‘worst’ is valid? No. Your feelings, your pain and trauma are valid and legitimate, no matter how much or little abuse you suffered. Abuse is abuse. Its traumatic, its hurtful, and it can require years and…

My mom constantly threatens to kick me out? Like if I complain about something she’ll say “if you don’t like it, then leave. Here is the phone call the cops if I’m so abusive” but she’s also given me an hour to decide to do what she wants me to do or to leave the house. We once actually had cps in the house because she gave my brother a humiliating punishment and someone called cps. I wish they had found something wrong, but I’m was too scared and stupid to say anything.

Hey anon, I’m so sorry you have to go through that. Threatening to kick you out is abuse, by itself, and you don’t deserve that. My parents did the same thing to me. I don’t know how old you are, but if you’re old enough to start thinking about moving out, you definitely should. If you’re not old enough to start making plans to move out, what you should do is talk to a friend’s…

Is it still abuse if my mom only hits me under certain circumstances? Whenever my grades don’t satisfy her things get pretty rough but when she’s happy with them nothing ever happens to me, I’ve had people tell me that that’s not normal but I thought everyone’s parents did that ?

Anon, I am so sorry to hear about this. Your friends are right, it is not normal or healthy for your parents to hit you under any circumstances. Its abuse. Think about it. Is it ever okay for another adult to hit a child? Why would it be okay for a parent? Please, if you need someone to talk to, feel free to send me another ask, or a message, any time. Here’s a story…

The single best piece of advice I can offer young people currently in, and recently escaping environments of abuse is this: If you at all possibly can, buy yourself a $10 prepaid cell phone at walmart and hide it. Give the number only to people you trust and keep your abusers completely unaware of it. If you can’t get one for yourself, get a friend to get it for you and smuggle it to you.…

I’m 17 and I recently learned that my mother is emotionally abusive. I’m “moving out” in mid august to go to college, but she doesn’t approve of any of my choices regarding my university, or anything college related. Normally I wouldn’t care because I’m leaving, but she has gotten worse and it is everyday now and it’s terrifying. My father just acts like nothing’s wrong. I don’t know if it’s worth doing anything though because I won’t live here much longer.

I am so sorry, anon. I am not surprised things have gotten worse as you get closer to moving out. What is happening is probably the beginning of what is known as an “extinction burst”. That’s when a behavior temporarily gets worse or more frequent because reinforcement stops, or is going to stop. Your mom knows you are going away and she’s not going to be able to harass you the way that she does now,…