Thanks for the link. I told her at one point that I love myself the way I was, just to test the waters, and she shamed me for it! She told me that I would happier if I was thinner. My autoimmune disease would go away, my psoriasis would clear, I’d be happier. It was really my thin fantasy, except I never had a say. I’m actually pretty physically able. I try so hard, but she’s there at every step, taunting me. It’s not like my many doctors help me out either.

I’m so sorry that she shamed you for loving yourself the way you are, anon, because that’s just how everyone should love themselves. I’m sorry that your mom can’t get past the idea of a daughter she has in her head and love you the way that you are. Please don’t give in to her bullying and abuse. You are amazing, and I know you are doing your best, and your best is amazing. Stay…

I’m going to be honest, I’m overweight and I know it. I’m​ trying to be healthier. Everytime I don’t do something my parent wants me to (clean the entire house, walk to the store when I have homework), she calls me lazy and says this is why I’ll never lose weight. She tells me that she just wants me to be pretty/wear nice clothes, but that makes me feel worse. Am I not already beautiful? Do I have no self worth if I’m fat and ugly? Like, I used to think I was beautiful, but I hate myself now.

Oh gosh. My friend. :C you are amazing. You are beautiful. You are a worthwhile person. Your weight, your body shape, neither of those means that you are not worthy of respect and love. You are worthy of respect and love at any size. Everything your mom is telling you is complete garbage meant to make you feel bad. This is the same shit I heard from my parents, and it damaged me for years…