Well that’s a real fucking tragedy, darlin’ cause anybody who knows me and says they loves me has gotta be real fucked in the head and probably been dealt a shit hand. But hey I guess that’s somethin’ we got in common so feel free to pull up a chair.
I like my coffee, period. Black’s best either when its the good stuff, or when its the really bad stuff. There’s nothing like a really terrible cup of diner joe that’s been on the burner for 12 hours. Middle of the road coffee, eehh, dump some cream in it sometimes. Toast’s good for mopping up egg yolk and not much else. Its usually either too burnt or too light. Bagels are better all around.
You’re damned right, pal. Don’t know who’d admit to being crap in bed but I sure ain’t anyway. 😼 Best you’ll ever have.
Well shit, I’m touched. Feel like mr. popular over here.
No birthday doubletap? Going soft on me, babe 😉
They can’t fuckin’ get rid of me, and I’d like to see ‘em try. Thanks for the well wishes, pal.
Are you still interested in modding? Come off anon and contact me
Don’t worry about it 🙂 We just had to go double check we hadn’t accidentally reblogged something pro-spanking without realizing it.
Your mother is projecting, and gaslighting you. This is a very common abuse technique. I’m so sorry that she’s doing this to you. Please remember that you are not doing anything wrong, and you should not feel guilty.
I might, honestly. If there is a 25+ year old survivor of parental abuse who is interested in answering the kind of asks you see on this blog, and has the spoons to do so with some regularity, feel free to contact me. 🙂
I have 126 asks in my inbox right now, and Im slowly trying to get to all of them. Sorry its taking so long!
I’m so sorry that she shamed you for loving yourself the way you are, anon, because that’s just how everyone should love themselves. I’m sorry that your mom can’t get past the idea of a daughter she has in her head and love you the way that you are. Please don’t give in to her bullying and abuse. You are amazing, and I know you are doing your best, and your best is amazing. Stay…
Oh gosh. My friend. :C you are amazing. You are beautiful. You are a worthwhile person. Your weight, your body shape, neither of those means that you are not worthy of respect and love. You are worthy of respect and love at any size. Everything your mom is telling you is complete garbage meant to make you feel bad. This is the same shit I heard from my parents, and it damaged me for years…
Abuse is abuse, is abuse, is abuse. It doesn’t matter how old you are, the way they are treating you is not right. Imagine two other adults treating one another that way. Is it abuse? Yes it is.
Absolutely, anon. Being “overprotective” can definitely become abuse quite easily. Anyone who doesn’t think so should go ahead and watch Disney’s Tangled.
Sorry I misread about your jobs, anon! Good for you. I am honestly impressed and proud of you for doing so much. As for your brother… oof. I am so sorry that he’s a part of this abusive household too. It would be nice if you were able to take him with you when you leave, but you need to be your own first priority. if you can’t take him with you immediately, remember that…
It is absolutely not insensitive or hurtful to others for you to disown your abuser. You are absolutely in the right to do this, and many children of toxic parents do the same thing. You can call him sperm donor, or call him abuser, or any other word that you think fits the terrible things that he did to you. I am so proud of you for being able to get away and distance yourself…
(2/2) It’s just hard for me to focus when I start going numb or I get extremely anxious. She’s used my own diary entries against me, showing them to my doctor as proof that I have a “porn addiction” (I watch it once every few weeks, if that), tried to force me to go on the birth control chip, forced me to go to church when she found out I’m Wiccan, and refuses to call…
Hi anon, I’m so glad you’ll be able to get out of your abusive situation soon, and I hope that you can make that move permanent. Until you can get out, some tips I have are: 1. No matter what your abuser says, remember that its about them, not you. Even if their words are very hurtful, they’re not true. 2. Try to stay out of the house/out of the way as much as possible/practical.…
And now I’m scared I’ll never be able to take care of myself. I ate at the cafeteria and didn’t have monthly bills and struggle with daily tasks as well as surviving socially. When left alone I mostly just read and watch tv. It doesn’t help that I have 1 jobs but I’m still not sure I could afford to live, but they’re the first jobs ever that my mental health can take. And I’m…
Put me and my sister in a constant state of fear. He almost killed us by driving in front of a tram. Another thing is my parents refuse to acknowledge my sexuality and yet they have gay relatives? They confuse me and I don’t know if I’m being over emotional and stupid but I’m actually terrified in this house. My mum yells at me all the time. I’m just so lost and I’m sorry this…
Abuse, and neglect, anon, which is also abuse. The fact that you see him very little does not change the fact that when you do interact, he is abusive towards you. If his being ‘rough’ with you is physical, that’s physical abuse on top of emotional abuse. You do not deserve to be treated this way.
This is the same behavior my own father displayed. Its all about his control over you. He only wants you to ‘grow up’ insofar as he wants you to do exactly what he tells you.
the validation i needed because i always felt like it was wrong, my mum used to be quite bad for it too but recently she’s gotten better because she accepts her faults but my dad I don’t think ever will because I’ve tried to talk to him before and he just got angry, it’s been very difficult to be able to tell what I’ve gone through because those kind of situations tend to be normalised…
✷ I was shorter than my mom even after I was taller than her and when I said I was 5’2" they insisted I was wrong and still shorter than my mom even though she’s 5’1.5". Also I got yelled at and called son of a b**** when I forgot to unpack my lunchbox and accused of faking my mental illness. And they’re really exorsexist (enbyphobic) and I’m nb so I can’t come out to…
a lot of people have unwanted sexual thoughts (intrusive thoughts) about people, even family members. While this could be a result of repressed abuse, there is no reason to jump to that as a cause immediately. It could also be the result of hypersexuality as a feature of some mental illness. Or the result of some other kind of trauma. or just intrusive thoughts. If these thoughts disturb you, I strongly recommend that you speak…
It entirely depends, anon. I have memory problems due to dissociation and trauma related to abuse too. Starting recovery can help, and I recommend talking with an empathetic therapist or counselor who understands what you’re going through.
Anon, we are socialized to believe in, love and trust our parents before anyone else. Its absolutely normal to have a hard time divorcing from those ingrained feelings of love, even when our parents are very abusive.
(((hospital anon))) she didnt really.. act like she cared at all. shes still back to her normal ways of screaming at me until i cry and then yelling at me for crying…. i only got out of the hospital and psychiatric ward on tuesday…… it… doesnt feel like she loves me 🙁 Anon, it is not normal for your parent to respond to your trauma, injury and distress with anger. Screaming and yelling at you…