You Are Allowed To Say ‘NO’. You are not selfish for saying no. You are not a bad person for wanting your own time, money, belongings, personal space and boundaries.
All abuse counts. There is not a bar to pass to count as ‘abused enough’. If you have experienced abuse, verbal, emotional, or physical, your trauma is valid and you deserve support.
Complete lack of privacy is abuse. Taking away your door, going through your possessions, and forcing you you to show every item you buy or receive is controlling and abusive.
Calling your child hurtful names is abuse, not teasing. If your parent calls you stupid, ugly, fat cow, loser, asshole, moron, or any other name designed to shame, hurt or otherwise be cruel that is verbal abuse.
“At least we don’t hit you.” is something emotional abusers say.
A parent threatening violence is always abuse. Threats of violence are legally considered assault.